Why You Trying To Impress Them?

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Have you ever been in a crowded place like supermarket, crossroad, or restaurant and you start to asked yourself “what will they think?”

This inquiry, though rarely spoken aloud, shapes decisions, dilutes passions, and adds a layer of performance to our most genuine endeavors.

I’ve stood at this point many t’ve stood at this point many times . Instead of following what felt right inside, I adjusted my direction based on how I imagined others would react. Living like that is exhausting.

Here is a truth that feels uncomfortable at first, but freeing once you accept it:

They are busy with their own life's. Their own problems. Their own fear of being judged.

The person you want to impress is probably worried about themselves. The person whose opinion you care about is likely distracted, scrolling, or already thinking about something else.

Doesn't mean you don't matter. It means you are free.

We are not the main character in everyone else’s story. At best, you are a small moment they quickly move past. Trying to build your life around impressing people who are barely watching will drain you.

I learned this the hard way.

Early in my journey, I put extreme effort into my work. Not because I love the process, but because I want to prove to someone who once looked down on me, I want recognition from them. All the energy I spent trying to impress them disappeared instantly. They wasn't impressed because they wasn't really care. They was just moving to the next task.

My effort had become a one-way conversation. This need to impress usually comes from confusion. We mix up validation with worth. We start believing our value must be confirmed by others. That “they” will decide if we are smart enough, capable enough, good enough.

But when your self-worth depends on others, it becomes unstable because their opinions change. Their mood changes. Their attention disappears. You are judging yourself using a mirror held by someone else. That mirror will always be distorted.

Things change when you move the judgement inward. There's is a difference between

• Doing something to get approval.

• And doing something because it matters to you.

One is a transaction. The others is an expression. Your discipline, your goals, your work. They must first meet your own standards. Ask:

• Does this feel meaningful to me ?

• Does this align with what I believe is right ?

This kind of validation doesn’t disappear when attention fades. This is not about ignoring all feedback. Good feedback from the right people matters. But constantly trying to impress “them” the imagined audience is wastes energy. It makes you reactive. You start shaping yourself based on expectations instead of building yourself around a clear inner direction.

When you let go of this need, something powerful happens. You regain energy, focus, and clarity. That energy can go into

• Real skill.

• Deeper relationships

• Steady growth

The goal stops being “impressive”. It becomes “honest”. The question slowly changes from: “What will they think?” to : “What does this require from me?”

Following that answer builds a life that belongs to you. It may not impress everyone. But it will satisfy the only opinion that's lasts.

your own.